He Did the Dirt and the Women Get Shunned?

Bill Cosby was American as jello and pudding.  And if you grew up anywhere between the 60's and 70's jello and pudding were two of the most popular desserts.  Children who took their lunch to school carried the snacks in their lunch boxes.  A popular favorite of mine was when my grandma and aunties would make gelatin salads mixed with fruit.  My mother still uses vanilla pudding in the batter for her cakes for them to be moist and not dry.  With the commercials and television shows Cosby was an actor in he was really popular.  I will never forget his role as Dr. Cliff Huxtable in the mid-80's until the early 90's.  He seemed so wholesome and appeared to have everything together.  Now I think it is ironic how on the show he was a gynecologist.

Well fast forward to 2014.  Just think about the years he was like an American icon and all the years hence and all these allegations and it did not go real public.  I am just amazed these women did not come forward when Tiger Woods drama was unfolding.   Normally with great news stories that are a little juicy they try and contrast and compare them to similar allegations.  How did this all miss the radar?  Especially considering he is a black man.  Is it because he played down his black image by saying the very things blacks are normally stereotyped about.  Has his platform to bash unwed mothers and thugs a way of him subliminally disassociating himself with blacks?

Apparently it worked for him.  I can't think of another case, even with the King of Music, where someone with so much notoriety missed the radar.  The accusations with women coming forward stating their claim.  And did you see the Tweet from one of his Cosby TV show daughters in regards to what's done in the dark coming to the light.   The actual daughter on the show, not the step-granddaughter.

He was so loved by some that a lot of women and thugs he was bashing did not take offense to it.  They even paid to go hear him speak of their 50% loss ways.  I guess the underlying message is when you work hard you get to play harder.  No matter if you are touring the country bashing women who have children out of wedlock or you are privileged because you are privileged.  Just totally disregard you are committing the very acts which often times lead to women having children out of wedlock anyways.  Of course the whole situation could be worst and more verifiable.  He could have fathered just as many babies as he has had allegedly raped all these women.

A self-righteous indignant man who really portrayed himself as the know it all of family roles and responsibilities and could speak up so eloquently about what everyone else was doing wrong, how they are doing it wrong, and why they were doing it wrong.  Pumped up loud and in charge on his soap boxes preaching in a manner that as pissed off a lot of single mothers.  Heck I even felt disdain with his generalizations.

A lot of the behavior of thugs he seems to credit to the orange jumpsuit wearers not loving their parents.  It was not only the mothers at fault it was them jumpsuit wearing thugs too.  Instead of their spoon being silver they didn't even have a spoon and had to beg for what they get.

Now with my curious mind and I know it is none of my business but I would love to know if he loves his wife, his parents, or his children.  What has love got to do with it?  His love and fascination undoubtedly for people and things his money should not be buying but he tries and buy it anyways.

I am perplexed because my ex use to tell me a wife is nothing more than a high priced prostitute.  I am sure he could have well afforded to spice up his marital relationship by extending the same invitation or mock played out his roles or fantasies with his own wife.  I am truly just as offended by his disrespect for the space of single women than he probably is about women who have children out of wedlock and thugs.  It seems society has gone rampant with wanting to make single women appear to be whores.   Men who want to play and not stay.  Then they make is seems like it is the woman who is dirty even when they haven't did anything to pleasure the man.  These men put their ego ahead of the truth so they won't be embarrassed at the expense and reputation of a man.  I have heard women say for a lifetime they don't want no one else's husband.  However, society seems to thing single women are lonely and desolate, dang shame.

What man thinks just because a woman is singles it equates to she is ready to mingle with just anyone?  I encourage every one to have an open mind to these allegations being made by these women, this stuff happens for real.  They are not talking from a nut house they are functional members of society, work, struggle, strive, thrive, pay taxes, and exist like everyone else.  Respect that!

I went back and read the speech Cosby gave.  The one I was appalled that he was even asked to deliver.  The speech to the NAACP on the 50th Anniversary of the Brown vs. Topeka Board of Education.  Anyone recall his using words like embarrassment, parenting?  Bill please hand the mic to Camille, I am sure she can tell the world a whole lot about how embarrassment feels first hand. What is it?  Do women deserve to have the dream man to parent with them who gropes other women? Help me be clear as to why it is better to be married to someone who cheats than to be single?

You may have your friends, but goodness gracious with all the resources you have can't you get one good one. My gracious it appears Bill Cosby had an image everyone else upheld.   I guess the role he played as a gynecologist could have been a lot more fulfilling if the writers had just written some scenes where he could grope some women during an exam.  Let him get his frills on and let the show foot the bill.  Then he would not being paying via someone who has possibly just set his self up to contributing to the delinquency of minors if there are really victims who were as young as 16 during this fiasco.

Please but please humor me and let me know how you feel your actions impact or impress upon what you have been speaking about all these unwed women who have babies.  And most importantly when you are not looking for a handout because you feel you got it all.  The man (ha, ha), the money, the children to parent and you still get embarrassed by the action of others.  Is her embarrassment her fault?  Do you think possibly you led someone to drink if the actions of parents really reflect the destiny of the child in 50% of the cases what's your 50%'s?  Curious minds would love to know.

Then to do the ultimate punk move to hush folks up.  Man up.  You always talking about the manhood of males born out of wedlock.  Where does Cosby's self-proclaimed ability to apparently man up now stand?  Throwing his money, his influence, and his power at the issue and it gets fixed.  Is it sending the message to our sons that race doesn't matter all that really matters is money?  Do you need to get back on your soap box and say race is not the issue it is just whether you are broke as heck or not?  Getting a very vocal talk show host cancelled for being vocal about the situation, inexcusable.

I am beginning to realize there are a lot of similarities between you and the thugs, displaced anger.  The black males get mad at the white man, you get mad at the black woman.  I find it just so coincidental it is the black female shows getting cancelled or threatened for cancellation in the heat of the moment.

Bottom line  you have to have a certain status quo to do things and for the things you do not to matter.  Got it, and I think the black thugs you talk so openly about got it too.

Any single woman, divorced woman can tell you the pattern of a cheating married man.  Normally if they ever get you in a situation where they can hit on a single woman they are attracted to they are going to. Some are so big headed that they think every woman wants them.  You tell them no and when they know you don't have a man or a "good" man they think a woman is open game.  It is really unfair when women have to be subjected to this type of treatment.  Every woman deserves to be respected.  If she is not married today it does not mean she won't be married tomorrow.

Let me tell how men like you do.  You try and smear a good woman into only being able to have you.  You
Well it is just absurd.  If they do or don't get what they want they will try and smear the woman's credibility to make their disgusting acts look like sugar.  Why was he groping all those women?  Why was in a hotel room with his robe on with other women?  Why was he paying for their time like he was paying for a secretary?

I tell you what I can understand the plight of a woman with no resources to take care of a child more than that of a billionaire who can afford to take care of his wife and doesn't.  Oh he had so much to say during his speech for the 50th Anniversary of the Brown vs. the Topeka Board of Education event.  He can say all of what 50% of black thugs do and don't do.

The hypocritical part is on the back end he was engaging in the same type of reckless behavior that produces out of wedlock babies.  Did he not realize that?  I am really wondering how much parenting he did with all the extracurricular activity we have heard more and more about lately.

For me personally, I have said it before.  My grandmother and I never could stomach his commercials.  And mainly because it was so popular is why we watched the Cosby Show.  I always hated his parts.  Never knew why it would have been that it was just something about him I could not put my finger on.  My grandmother would always say it was something about him that she just did not like she could not stand him.

His speech included references to thugs being shot running out the store after having stolen soda pop.  He is so fortunate none of these women shot him or had a man to shoot him during his alleged activity.  He ended his speech with a comment about making Jesus smile.  Bill, did you make Jesus smile?  Now that models as young as 16 are being mentioned and if they come forward with any verifiable proof guess who may be wearing an orange suit?

The victim in all of this, Camille.  Someone who isn't saying anything is normally listening.  She is in a great position to end up very victorious.  I would divorce him, take his billions, and change my last name.  I think that would send a loud message to the single out-of-wedlock moms if she were to join the ranks.  It would probably make them angry she had to go through so much to get there.

Silly Rabbit Haven't You Heard Tricks are Made for Kids?

By no means am I the perfect mother, however, I am really feeling some kind of way.  I cannot believe this woman gave her baby daddy money for studio time to do rap music.

I could appreciate it more if he had busted a rap to free her from the bondage of prison when she was incarcerated.  How do you look out for someone who completely abandoned you during your time of need?  He did not step up.  She had to get out and lift him up.  I'm thinking, YOU FOOL!

Well, truth be known I am feeling hoodwinked right about now.  I had sympathy for this woman.  It tore at my heart strings that this lady was incarcerated for leaving her children in the car while she went in for a job interview.  As a young mother in my early twenties I had three small children I was working to provide for.  I know how hard paying for child care can weigh on an already scrapped budget.  However, when your babies are involved you do what you have to do.

Government assistance was just not enough money for me to sit around and wait to collect.  I had to make money.  I liked doing things like going to the movies, going to ice shows, taking my children skating, to the park, out of town, buying them clothes, and doing different things with them.  They fueled my fire. I always say if it had not been for them I would have been such a pompous person I would not have been able to stand myself.  They were more of a help me find the nurturing part of me than being me.  When you have young, helpless souls to look out for just the mere fact they cannot do for themselves was always grace sufficient enough to make sure things happened for them.  They did not ask to be in this world.  If both parents don't step up one just has to.

I'm saying to this sistah, lady please get your act together.  Your children need you.  We as black women need you.  Now I'm going to probably being getting cross eyed looks from people wondering whether or not we all do this kind of crazy.  It's bad enough we get overwhelmed with attention about not having a man.  Then she go and do this and put this kind of man in this mix.  In some instances it is okay not to have a man.  Especially when his plan doesn't include you, rapper indeed.

We can't always blame it on the perpetrator.  I am wondering where the grandmother, aunties, uncles, and a whole lot of other people stand in this situation. Have they all failed to jump into the spotlight because they realize more than we who fell victim to her crying face what this situationship really is all about?  They were probably laughing hysterically that anyone else was rallying behind her.  They already knew we were jumping on a bandwagon that the wheels were bound to fall off?  (he-he).

On this one I'm calling it a wrap.  I was bamboozled.  But no more.  Whatever fate that judge decides to hand down I am sure he will be able to do it without a slap on the back of his hand.  The public outcry got this lady a pass and then she showed her a##.  The judge should issue a public "I told you so to all the haters who wanted to jump in and do his job!"

I was looking forward to a heart warming update on this one.  Since it is around Thanksgiving time an everything to be thankful type story.  I just find it incredulous that this woman did not use any of the money to pay for the necessities to sustain her and her children.  She can't possibly think this rapper of a baby daddy is going to look out for her if he makes it big!  Apparently with him she has invested her time and her money poorly.  They both need to get over themselves and put the children's interest first.

Just in case you missed this silly crap over some baby daddy rap dreams, here's a link to an article?:   http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/mom-left-kids-hot-car-spent-thousands-rap-album-article-1.2014027

Well I'm done.  That's all about this situation.  It's a w-r-a-p.  

A Show of Non-Support to Support the Bigger Issues!

Excuse me the quick to blame President Obama folks,

I don't think Democrats turned their back on the President.  I think it was just apathy over how much the bipartisan bickering has caused everything presented by this President during his last term and this term being an issue and people are sick of the nonsense.   People take time out to do things to make a difference.  Realistically and logically how much would it really had mattered if all the Democrats would have shown up for this last mid term-election?  With a dismal 37% turnout overall inclusive of Democrats nationwide I am more curious of why the Republicans apparently did not all show up either.

People I know are tired of seeing the President having to bang his head against a brick wall in an attempt to get things done.  How about people showed their support by not showing up to support the people who make the President's job harder?  Even though I did vote after further consideration of those who chose not to I am more empathetic.

If it wasn't for the city I live in putting an item on the ballot to have an elected school board versus an appointed school board I may not have shown up to vote either.  If I had not shown up it would have been because I am tired of seeing how hard President Obama has worked and how little cooperation he is getting from the system as a whole.  My non-support would have had everything to do with my distaste of how he has been treated and all he has had to endure since he has been in office.  

As witnessed in the last two Presidential elections people showed up when they knew their presence overwhelmingly would make a difference.  Let's also take into consideration all the millions spent on an event that boils down to an election that will cover one day. We have a large number of people living in poverty day-to-day who could think of a million ways they could put that money to better use.  People who can't even get an increase in minimum wage which keeps them below the poverty line are being expected to show up to vote for campaigns that have spent millions frivolously, really?  It is like the government is being micro-managed via the popular opinion of people with millions to spend on campaign funding and the voice of poverty is being silenced.

Furthermore, I feel if there is any one person to blame it would be Harry Reid for not bringing the real touchy issues between the Democrats and Republicans up to vote.  And the media contributed by waiting to close to the mid-term elections to spotlight the whole fiasco.  The elected officials in Washington weren't operating in the manner they were elected to do and by the way they were still being paid way above minimum wage as well.  In my opinion there are a myriad of reasons why Democrats, Republicans, Independents and any others did not show up to vote rather than a notion of non-support for President Obama.

Personally, I find it insulting that they are blaming President Obama for the apathy or whatever other reason people chose not to exercise their right to vote.  What about the other 63% or so who did not vote nationwide at all or some of the changes in identification requirements to vote?  I know dang well they are not all Democrats.  President Obama was shown casting his ballot.  If there is one person I can think of who has a whole lot of reasons not to vote based on  what he has endured it would be him.

I would like to further add, there has been no mention of the areas where there may have been only one name on the ballot.  If they extract this from the polling results I think it would present a better picture of why some chose not to vote.  It almost seems surreal for people to be boycotting a process that others fought. got beaten, and died for the right to exercise.  All I can say is God help us all.

The whole situation reminds me of a popular lyrics in a song I remember from my Freshman year in college in the Marching Band of the Sonic Boom of the South "I Couldn't See the Forest for the Trees" sung by Peabo Bryson.  In hindsight, which is 50/50 we need healing.  When something is broken healing is in order.  We need counseling.  We need motivation.  We need to believe again.  This Democracy is our system and we need to fix it.  We need to care.  We need to show our concern.

On the real all the folks who chose not to vote, as a Democracy we need your voice.  I can only keep going back to how much voting meant to my great-grandmother, my grandmother, and mother and the older I get the more I realize it.  My mother did not vote this time.  But with having MS for over 30 years this mid-term election is one of the only elections I ever recall her missing.  If it wasn't for her health she would have been there.  I am a product that growth requires change.  For most of my adult life I did not vote.  Once I matured to the level of seeing how much voting really matters.  Some of the people I love and like right to vote being taken away and they are still required to contribute to this financially by paying taxes and realizing how unfair that seems to me I will always exercise my right to vote.  I hope everyone else finds their purpose for voting.