Natural Look Versus the Nappy Look - There is A Difference!
To me, there is a huge difference between wearing your hair natural and your head looking nappy. Agreeably, everyone has their own style. As for me personally when it comes to hairstyles I like a nice, well groomed look. If I'm feeling a little flirty I can stand it to look a little messy. I've noticed men are attracted to women who look low maintenance. Which could definitely be why I don't have a man. I care about how I look in public. When I step out to go anywhere there's a crowd I definitely don't want to look low maintenance. I only want the guys who like to spend attracted to me. Frugal starts with the same letter as to how I feel about frugal men. Or better yet they can be frugal but just not frugal with me.
However, getting back to my post. Wearing the nappy headed look at any time I don't like. I keep a few hair pieces, wigs, whatever stashed to keep up a nominal style. I really don't like anything elaborate just plain and simple old fashioned styles like bobs, straight length with a little flair, soft curls. If all else fails I wash and condition my real hair and wear it wet. Thanks to my Cherokee Indian roots it is normally straight when it is wet. In my younger days it was really pretty curly when it was wet. I landed a man for thirteen years the first time I got ready for a date and came down dressed from the shower with my hair still wet. It blew his mind. My skin was flushed red too.I had just finished a hot shower and hurried to get ready because he had shown up early. I wish I could have put some of the men I dropped for his fine behind on lay-a-way. Youthful skin and youthful hair is a blessing but no doubt as we age we have to change as our resilience in our hair and skin change. Take those lemons and make lemonade.
Now those who have read my blog for any number of times normally know I stray from talking about folks. And of course I won't name names because you see people on the street who apply and I definitely wouldn't want to open the door to someone approaching me and getting into a verbal match. My daddy taught me to fight with words. My grandma taught me to fear no one but God. I had at minimum eighteen years of sparring practice with my brothers on the art of defending self. I can let my hair down! If I bought it or if it was given to me it is still mine.
It's okay to go natural but it is even more okay to go natural beautifully. Personally, I think it is a disgrace to wear a hairstyle in purporting to be natural and look a hot mess. You are not representing my heritage. My female ancestors kept their hair well groomed. They were quick to say "go fix your hair". I would sometimes start pouting and say "I'm not going nowhere." And they would reply "you ain't got to be going nowhere I got to look at you." It gets my gall when the same nappy headed folks tell guys they need to pull their pants up (which I don't agree with either my grandma used to pull guys pants all the way down when they used to come visit my brother with their pants hanging down) they should be telling them go comb their hair.
I wore an Afro during my senior year in high school. I first got my hair cut into an Afro style in the 10th grade to the dismay of my high school sweetheart.
I washed my hair regularly. I conditioned it to a point where it was soft to touch. My hair was well moisturized. I kept it picked out. I carried a pick with me. A nice even look. Never would I have by style worn my hair at varying levels like I didn't have time to take and get it shaped up.
During times before shaping I would wash it, set it on rollers, and then pick it out and even it up as much as possible. The curls looked soft. If it ever got to a point where I didn't really like how it looked I would do two Pocahontas type braids. One braid on each side of my head. My favorite style of all time was just pulling my hair back into one ponytail.
Fast forward over the years I have worn Afro styles. Mainly when my hair was very short. The shorter my hair the finer the curls. I learned this from my eldest child. The lower she cut her hair the less primping she had to do. She just put mouse on it and went. When I learned that I did it for a long while.
Admittedly there are times when dealing with a hairstyle from day to day can be very challenging. But it is a challenge that definitely needs to get met. I think it is a disgrace to compliment someone on their hair just because they are wearing it naturally when it looks a hot mess. Just because they are wearing their hair natural doesn't make it beautiful. What makes hair beautiful is taking pride in it and making the best of your hair no matter how you decide to wear it. The nappy headed look is a hard look.
During my younger days I used to braid and keep a lot of Afro's for neighbors and friends. If you have really nappy hair it is best to wash your hair and condition it with a top quality hair products. However, just basic soap and water will do too. Use petroleum jelly to keep it up if you don't anything else. Proper moisture is key. Then take the time to braid up your hair while it is wet. Leave your hair braided for at least over night and and then comb or pick it out into a fro. Keep your hair looking the best it can at all times. Especially when you step out in public.
One of the oldest tools in the world is the comb. Use it! Wear your natural hair beautifully!
This is just food for thought and the treating is on me.
To me, there is a huge difference between wearing your hair natural and your head looking nappy. Agreeably, everyone has their own style. As for me personally when it comes to hairstyles I like a nice, well groomed look. If I'm feeling a little flirty I can stand it to look a little messy. I've noticed men are attracted to women who look low maintenance. Which could definitely be why I don't have a man. I care about how I look in public. When I step out to go anywhere there's a crowd I definitely don't want to look low maintenance. I only want the guys who like to spend attracted to me. Frugal starts with the same letter as to how I feel about frugal men. Or better yet they can be frugal but just not frugal with me.
However, getting back to my post. Wearing the nappy headed look at any time I don't like. I keep a few hair pieces, wigs, whatever stashed to keep up a nominal style. I really don't like anything elaborate just plain and simple old fashioned styles like bobs, straight length with a little flair, soft curls. If all else fails I wash and condition my real hair and wear it wet. Thanks to my Cherokee Indian roots it is normally straight when it is wet. In my younger days it was really pretty curly when it was wet. I landed a man for thirteen years the first time I got ready for a date and came down dressed from the shower with my hair still wet. It blew his mind. My skin was flushed red too.I had just finished a hot shower and hurried to get ready because he had shown up early. I wish I could have put some of the men I dropped for his fine behind on lay-a-way. Youthful skin and youthful hair is a blessing but no doubt as we age we have to change as our resilience in our hair and skin change. Take those lemons and make lemonade.
Now those who have read my blog for any number of times normally know I stray from talking about folks. And of course I won't name names because you see people on the street who apply and I definitely wouldn't want to open the door to someone approaching me and getting into a verbal match. My daddy taught me to fight with words. My grandma taught me to fear no one but God. I had at minimum eighteen years of sparring practice with my brothers on the art of defending self. I can let my hair down! If I bought it or if it was given to me it is still mine.
It's okay to go natural but it is even more okay to go natural beautifully. Personally, I think it is a disgrace to wear a hairstyle in purporting to be natural and look a hot mess. You are not representing my heritage. My female ancestors kept their hair well groomed. They were quick to say "go fix your hair". I would sometimes start pouting and say "I'm not going nowhere." And they would reply "you ain't got to be going nowhere I got to look at you." It gets my gall when the same nappy headed folks tell guys they need to pull their pants up (which I don't agree with either my grandma used to pull guys pants all the way down when they used to come visit my brother with their pants hanging down) they should be telling them go comb their hair.
I wore an Afro during my senior year in high school. I first got my hair cut into an Afro style in the 10th grade to the dismay of my high school sweetheart.
I washed my hair regularly. I conditioned it to a point where it was soft to touch. My hair was well moisturized. I kept it picked out. I carried a pick with me. A nice even look. Never would I have by style worn my hair at varying levels like I didn't have time to take and get it shaped up.
During times before shaping I would wash it, set it on rollers, and then pick it out and even it up as much as possible. The curls looked soft. If it ever got to a point where I didn't really like how it looked I would do two Pocahontas type braids. One braid on each side of my head. My favorite style of all time was just pulling my hair back into one ponytail.
Fast forward over the years I have worn Afro styles. Mainly when my hair was very short. The shorter my hair the finer the curls. I learned this from my eldest child. The lower she cut her hair the less primping she had to do. She just put mouse on it and went. When I learned that I did it for a long while.
Admittedly there are times when dealing with a hairstyle from day to day can be very challenging. But it is a challenge that definitely needs to get met. I think it is a disgrace to compliment someone on their hair just because they are wearing it naturally when it looks a hot mess. Just because they are wearing their hair natural doesn't make it beautiful. What makes hair beautiful is taking pride in it and making the best of your hair no matter how you decide to wear it. The nappy headed look is a hard look.
During my younger days I used to braid and keep a lot of Afro's for neighbors and friends. If you have really nappy hair it is best to wash your hair and condition it with a top quality hair products. However, just basic soap and water will do too. Use petroleum jelly to keep it up if you don't anything else. Proper moisture is key. Then take the time to braid up your hair while it is wet. Leave your hair braided for at least over night and and then comb or pick it out into a fro. Keep your hair looking the best it can at all times. Especially when you step out in public.
One of the oldest tools in the world is the comb. Use it! Wear your natural hair beautifully!
This is just food for thought and the treating is on me.
