I sent an email today to a very loving kind sweetheart of a person. Thankfully my email contained a image of "can you keep a secret". I was sending a subliminal message. Everything I email this guy he shares it with his friend who shares it with his grapevine.
How do I know this? One of the grapes on the grapevine can't keep nothing. Home girl be boasting with enthusiasm to let me know indirectly someone has scooped her.
Now don't go think I have anything hot and juicy going on in my life. I just feel some things you share with others, especially involving business transactions should be kept secret. One of my best mentors used to tell me never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.
It sort of reminds me of when I was married and my ex used to tell everyone everything about us. The most real estate he got from it was that it made people despise and hate me and see me as the woman who gets what she wants. He told me on more than one occasion that a wife is a high priced prostitute. Considering the fact that he wasn't too creative I'm sure one of his friends told him that. Trust and believe it was not that I got everything that I wanted it was more like I my basic necessities were met. However, as the old game goes when you tell something to someone and the message is shared with everyone in the game by the time it gets to the last person and they communicate it to the person who started off the message it can and usually is completely distorted from the original context.
Of course I am not encouraging anyone to live their life in paranoia. I'm just saying take time to reflect to see how your messages bounce back to you. Look for feedback and interaction and see if it appears the person has been communicating your messages in the wrong light to others.
Too often I have seen where someone who has a confidant the confidant is actually their protagonist. Does everyone need to know everything about you? You may not make your life an open book but is your confidant making your life an open book.
I can honestly say I have one confidant who I know is like a broken down refrigerator. She doesn't keep nothing and I tell her that all the time. My good old mom. She is one of the most attentive listeners I know. Fortunately most of the time she gets the details right when she relays all your personal goings on. She normally even has something to add because shes the type of person people flock to and tell stuff. I'll be the first to tell you she can't wait to get on the phone to update everyone else. I just listen astonished at times as to how she tells me some stuff just in a matter of fact type way.
You just gotta know and accept what you have and deal with it accordingly. Do you have a confidant who you can truly confide in when you want to keep something private or do you have a confidant who is really a protagonist and tells everything you tell them? Food for thought.
Stay blessed!
Lynne
How do I know this? One of the grapes on the grapevine can't keep nothing. Home girl be boasting with enthusiasm to let me know indirectly someone has scooped her.
Now don't go think I have anything hot and juicy going on in my life. I just feel some things you share with others, especially involving business transactions should be kept secret. One of my best mentors used to tell me never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.
It sort of reminds me of when I was married and my ex used to tell everyone everything about us. The most real estate he got from it was that it made people despise and hate me and see me as the woman who gets what she wants. He told me on more than one occasion that a wife is a high priced prostitute. Considering the fact that he wasn't too creative I'm sure one of his friends told him that. Trust and believe it was not that I got everything that I wanted it was more like I my basic necessities were met. However, as the old game goes when you tell something to someone and the message is shared with everyone in the game by the time it gets to the last person and they communicate it to the person who started off the message it can and usually is completely distorted from the original context.
Of course I am not encouraging anyone to live their life in paranoia. I'm just saying take time to reflect to see how your messages bounce back to you. Look for feedback and interaction and see if it appears the person has been communicating your messages in the wrong light to others.
Too often I have seen where someone who has a confidant the confidant is actually their protagonist. Does everyone need to know everything about you? You may not make your life an open book but is your confidant making your life an open book.
I can honestly say I have one confidant who I know is like a broken down refrigerator. She doesn't keep nothing and I tell her that all the time. My good old mom. She is one of the most attentive listeners I know. Fortunately most of the time she gets the details right when she relays all your personal goings on. She normally even has something to add because shes the type of person people flock to and tell stuff. I'll be the first to tell you she can't wait to get on the phone to update everyone else. I just listen astonished at times as to how she tells me some stuff just in a matter of fact type way.
You just gotta know and accept what you have and deal with it accordingly. Do you have a confidant who you can truly confide in when you want to keep something private or do you have a confidant who is really a protagonist and tells everything you tell them? Food for thought.
Stay blessed!
Lynne
