I spent the better part of my life gainfully employed in decent paying positions because I had children to take care of. Now that my children are all grown I have a different perspective on life.
Maybe it was all the to-do lists which come along with raising children. Most of my thoughts during the day where geared towards getting my work accomplished during the day. Staying close to the phone in case I got a call in regards to one of my children. Thankfully which didn't happen often. They very rarely got sick, they hardly missed a day of school in all their years. Most years they all three got a perfect attendance certificate.
The band practices, the football practices, the martial arts practices, the evening tutoring sessions, the special events like the circus, ice shows, church events, birthday parties, PSAT prep, SAT prep, projects, teaching them Algebra, homework, music lessons, PTA meetings, school performances, football games, softball practices, whatever have you. I woke up one morning after they had been gone for about a year and a half and said what am I doing all this for. My children are grown. Why am I day in and day out putting up with the political BS which goes on in the office. The only person I have to worry about is me.
No more of having to worry about if the children are clothed, fed, or have money for this or have money for that. I was ready to step out of the gainful employment realm on faith. I gave my two weeks notice and turned in my work badge on MLK day. Why did the speaker have to speak about how she had stepped out on faith from her job? Even though I had been asked to reconsider when submitting my letter of termination, more of an email, I never did literally confirm one way or another.
When I left I began to do real estate full time. It wasn't long before I appreciated the structure of having to do something else in addition to doing real estate. Self-employment requires a whole lot of discipline.
Today my thoughts are I could possibly be working a job which would pay me a decent income, however, when I equate all the political BS I would have to deal with, the wardrobe, the driving distance, the fact of having my day tied up from 9 to 5 every day. My thoughts heavily lean toward I would rather keep struggling financially to try and make than to just be comfortable.
I'm happy with what I'm doing right now because it is not stressful. It doesn't require I go in an office and speak to phony people all day everyday. It doesn't require me to have to deal with slackers. Everyone is working and doing their part. I don't have to worry about constantly watching my back because someone is out to stab me in the back to get my position.
Yes, the money, benefits, bonuses and everything else undoubtedly would be better. The thing I most concerned with being better at this stage in my life is my peace of mind.
Not to mention having to deal wit the men who are gold diggers. They say women are gold diggers. I've learned since I don't work a corporate job I don't have to deal with as many gigolos who act like they're interested in you but who are just interested in how much they can leach off of you. Thankfully, they don't like self-employed women because they know they have their highs and lows with money. Most gigolos have been around.
The next man I meet I don't want him to be interested in me because of all I have going on. I would rather for his interest in me to be genuine. I'm sure some ladies can relate when you got it going on you have to beat the men off with sticks. But when you ain't got no money you ain't got no man. Heaven forbid if you were to have to ask him to pay a $100 water bill for you. You would have thought you asked him to cut his right arm off.
For me money isn't everything. It comes and goes and sometimes fortunately some of the problems that come with it as well.
I even look back to when prior to getting married I had three children. My ex had a girlfriend with one child and she was in the same line of work as he and they both ended up on unemployed at the same time. Why did he choose me over her? I think back now and realize it was probably because I was a whole lot more stable financially. I had a home and a car that was paid for. She had no home and a sports car which was not paid for. Her mother kept her one and only child. I had all three of mine. With having children I had to keep going to stay ahead. Children don't ask to come in this world so when they get here you definitely can't plan they are going to be self-supporting. How a woman can ignore her child having food, shelter, and basic clothing is beyond me.
I worked my butt off to make sure my children were taken care of. I didn't have room for error when it came to them. They were my life and I felt we grew up together. They are three people I can always put my arms around and say I love you. I'm not who I am in spite of them but because of them. My biggest successes in life and my biggest failures in life I can attribute it to what they go through. It is so true as a mother you are never as happy as your most unhappiest child. I'm still pushing to get them on board so I can be on board. Whoever cannot withstand the turbulence oh well. The hardest relationship I ever had to end was with their father. Everyone since has not had the same physical attachment, no children.
Again, money isn't everything. People can look down on me because I make very little money with what I'm doing right now. I believe in a hard, honest days work. At this point in time I want it without the BS. I'm doing things at my own pace in my own time. As the money is meant for me it will come. One thing I can truly say is He has never failed me yet.
Maybe it was all the to-do lists which come along with raising children. Most of my thoughts during the day where geared towards getting my work accomplished during the day. Staying close to the phone in case I got a call in regards to one of my children. Thankfully which didn't happen often. They very rarely got sick, they hardly missed a day of school in all their years. Most years they all three got a perfect attendance certificate.
The band practices, the football practices, the martial arts practices, the evening tutoring sessions, the special events like the circus, ice shows, church events, birthday parties, PSAT prep, SAT prep, projects, teaching them Algebra, homework, music lessons, PTA meetings, school performances, football games, softball practices, whatever have you. I woke up one morning after they had been gone for about a year and a half and said what am I doing all this for. My children are grown. Why am I day in and day out putting up with the political BS which goes on in the office. The only person I have to worry about is me.
No more of having to worry about if the children are clothed, fed, or have money for this or have money for that. I was ready to step out of the gainful employment realm on faith. I gave my two weeks notice and turned in my work badge on MLK day. Why did the speaker have to speak about how she had stepped out on faith from her job? Even though I had been asked to reconsider when submitting my letter of termination, more of an email, I never did literally confirm one way or another.
When I left I began to do real estate full time. It wasn't long before I appreciated the structure of having to do something else in addition to doing real estate. Self-employment requires a whole lot of discipline.
Today my thoughts are I could possibly be working a job which would pay me a decent income, however, when I equate all the political BS I would have to deal with, the wardrobe, the driving distance, the fact of having my day tied up from 9 to 5 every day. My thoughts heavily lean toward I would rather keep struggling financially to try and make than to just be comfortable.
I'm happy with what I'm doing right now because it is not stressful. It doesn't require I go in an office and speak to phony people all day everyday. It doesn't require me to have to deal with slackers. Everyone is working and doing their part. I don't have to worry about constantly watching my back because someone is out to stab me in the back to get my position.
Yes, the money, benefits, bonuses and everything else undoubtedly would be better. The thing I most concerned with being better at this stage in my life is my peace of mind.
Not to mention having to deal wit the men who are gold diggers. They say women are gold diggers. I've learned since I don't work a corporate job I don't have to deal with as many gigolos who act like they're interested in you but who are just interested in how much they can leach off of you. Thankfully, they don't like self-employed women because they know they have their highs and lows with money. Most gigolos have been around.
The next man I meet I don't want him to be interested in me because of all I have going on. I would rather for his interest in me to be genuine. I'm sure some ladies can relate when you got it going on you have to beat the men off with sticks. But when you ain't got no money you ain't got no man. Heaven forbid if you were to have to ask him to pay a $100 water bill for you. You would have thought you asked him to cut his right arm off.
For me money isn't everything. It comes and goes and sometimes fortunately some of the problems that come with it as well.
I even look back to when prior to getting married I had three children. My ex had a girlfriend with one child and she was in the same line of work as he and they both ended up on unemployed at the same time. Why did he choose me over her? I think back now and realize it was probably because I was a whole lot more stable financially. I had a home and a car that was paid for. She had no home and a sports car which was not paid for. Her mother kept her one and only child. I had all three of mine. With having children I had to keep going to stay ahead. Children don't ask to come in this world so when they get here you definitely can't plan they are going to be self-supporting. How a woman can ignore her child having food, shelter, and basic clothing is beyond me.
I worked my butt off to make sure my children were taken care of. I didn't have room for error when it came to them. They were my life and I felt we grew up together. They are three people I can always put my arms around and say I love you. I'm not who I am in spite of them but because of them. My biggest successes in life and my biggest failures in life I can attribute it to what they go through. It is so true as a mother you are never as happy as your most unhappiest child. I'm still pushing to get them on board so I can be on board. Whoever cannot withstand the turbulence oh well. The hardest relationship I ever had to end was with their father. Everyone since has not had the same physical attachment, no children.
Again, money isn't everything. People can look down on me because I make very little money with what I'm doing right now. I believe in a hard, honest days work. At this point in time I want it without the BS. I'm doing things at my own pace in my own time. As the money is meant for me it will come. One thing I can truly say is He has never failed me yet.
