The holiday seasons are upon us. People are losing weight, sending out invites, not inviting others.
You can lose all the weight you want. But you can't fix ugly. Most people who read this probably think I mean you can't fix ugly when it comes to appearance. No I mean you apparently can't fix ugly sometimes when it comes to your actions.
Some people's ill ways are so much a part of them they cannot be fixed. You know the ones who instead of spreading joy during the holiday season spread hate, discord, and discontent. Those scrooges who invite certain people to functions and exclude others. Those who have a email list for a group of folks in the same arena and choose to leave some folks off.
Most of the time those who don't make the list are the ones who they fear will out shine them. If you are one of the ones who are omitted from the invite list or email list just know that our God is all knowing. And if you had nothing else to be thankful for on Thanksgiving (even though I am sure anyone who is reading this has a lot to be thankful for) be thankful you don't have to account for the actions of others.
The only list I know personally I live my life to make is the list to be pleasing in God's sight. I don't believe in exclusion. I treat all people according to the content of their character. I can deal with characters too. Especially those who are smug enough to think they have the upper hand when doing wrong or misdeeds. I want my character to be one groomed for the upper room. I don't have to exclude anyone. I don't believe in ascertaining "conflict of interest" to make others look they have an issue when it is really you who have an issue.
I remember when my ex had a profession which made him mean as a rattlesnake. I told him it was either me or the job. Thankfully the Lord had prepared our way so we could live off one income. My income at the time was sufficient enough to pay the household bills and both car payments. He didn't have an issue with telling folks my wife takes good care of me. He took excellent care of me in all the ways that mattered. He had a circle. Either you were in or you weren't. He didn't give a care about anyone outside of his circle.
The only circle I know is love. One pastor summed it up like the ring that signifies a bond it has no beginning or no end. I was taught to not kiss butt. However, I was also taught to love everyone no matter what. When you dislike someone they dislike you more my grandmother would always tell me. So I learned to get out of the habit of likes and dislikes because as a child I would wear it out at times.
I remember when I was gainfully employed over 15 years ago now I told one co-worker that I did not like someone else who worked at the same location. She immediately told me never to say who I like or don't like in a work environment. Today, I don't even remember who it was I disliked.
For me I realized a long time ago it takes too much away from me as a person to dwell on my emotions. I can't control the actions of others. The best way to handle folks who act like characters is to just leave them alone. Apparently they get their jollies off of just being annoying.
How some days I do wish people would realize when they live life through their emotions it makes them appear desperate.
During the holiday season it seems some people feel compelled to make small talk. Why would you want to make small talk with someone who you exclude or who excludes you from selectively. Those type of people I wish wouldn't say anything at all to me. Trust and believe I don't go out of my way to say anything at all to them.
I don't bother people. Especially ill will folks. Nobody needs you to try and pacify them. You need to look at the person in the mirror.
Anyone who knows me knows I keep it real. I don't like phony folks. I don't like folks who go around spreading hate, discord, and discontent in the guise of spreading cheer and act like you are superior to exclude folks selectively and think they are going to show up to events with your approval. You don't run me.
If you don't like what I write in my blog, don't read it. This is one obligation you do not have.
I put God first in all I do. There is hardly anything I can recall doing where I didn't pray first or there wasn't some type of divine intervention involved. I love my children. There are other folks I love as well. I know unselfish and unconditional love. Your ill feelings or actions toward me or others because of their relationship with me are your own issues. I don't bother no one so I know I haven't done anything to you.
As long as I can stand in the love of the holy father who has been all amazing and magnificent to me, I don't need to be a part of your twisted thought out circle. I seek divine approval.
I stay clear of people who act in desperation. I was always taught desperate people will hurt you. Once I have seen too many people being hurt by the antics of someone I have enough sense to keep my distance. Especially when someone does it to people they call their friends I know what they are capable of trying to do to me and I'm not their friend nor do I want to be their friend.
I don't use the term friend wisely. My friend bank consists of "true friends". There is a big difference. One worth learning.
You can't fix ugly. Your aura speaks volumes.
