I'm thinking about a conversation I had recently with a friend of several years. After I finished the phone call with him a thought crossed my mind which was "It's a Bad Wind that Never Changes." He was on his way visiting his big brother. I'm just thankful he didn't call me with his brother's idioms after the visit. They are both two people who are really set in their ways. Now don't get me wrong, they are set as far as financial stability, sense of job security, and both are retired from at least one job. They do very well.
Even though our conversation did not go into the topic of relationships, family, or anything of substance. It was just a hello, what are you up to right now type call. I was at my mom's picking up my grandchildren to keep them for the what was left of the day. He was on his way visiting his older brother he had just had dinner at a local eatery and was telling me about the $4.99 specials they had. I sort of got the sense he didn't say to me what he really called for. Maybe because I told him I was at my mom's. Well anyways the phone call caused me to reflect. He normally asks me what am I doing in a way which commands are you on track to succeed. Are you purposing yourself for increase?
It made me reflect on an old saying which has stuck in my head. "It's a Bad Wind that Never Changes It's Course." As storms sometimes brew it normally gets worse if it stands still in a certain spot because it is building up strength and normally does more damage when it stays on course. I feel business and personal relationships some how have the same impact. When you stay in a personal or business relationship and become complacent it just builds up strength and if the course of action doesn't change from time to time (hopefully for the better) it can do irrevocable damage. To take it one step further, how your business relationships pan out can sometimes (not always) be akin to how your personal relationships turn out. Often times there is some similarity between approach and delivery. It's sort of why I guess when companies do background checks of your references even after all these years is because they realize your personal relationships will give them an indication of what type of person they are looking to hire. The same strengths and weaknesses a person brings to the table in a business arena probably is very reflective of how they interact personally with their friends.
It brought me to the question: Are your business and personal relationships failing for the same reasons? Now for my friend I mentioned earlier in this post I would say maybe. He is very committed to what he does professionally and he is very good at it. On a personal level his expectations are just as high is why I think he's still single. A very handsome man, light in complexion, naturally wavy hair, lives alone, two nice cars, nice house, meticulously clean, money in the bank, retired from one job, making great money on another the brother has definitely got it going on. When I ask him why doesn't he have a woman his reply is "I'm trying to stay focused." I'm like to myself focused on what? Every time he gets in a relationship it seems it ends for the same reason the woman has "bad kids".
I'm wondering why even involve yourself in a relationship with a woman with children if you know goodness well you don't have the patience for it? I figure he was on his way to his brother's house to vent and share all their failed relationships with women with "bad kids."
I'm thinking to myself why suffer with the same generational pain? Do you have the latitude to learn from your prior mistakes and those of people around you? Are you afraid of going against the norm which hasn't worked for you because you are more afraid of the unknown? Do you actually seek the advice of others without having written in stone what others impression of you should be? Do you ever take time to reflect and really analyze your situation?
It truly is a bad wind that never changes course. I've been focusing hard over this last year to add more structured focus to my change for the better. I've been going back to some of the things which have worked for me in the past. My change of course is to hold out for someone I want to marry, someone I would love to spend the rest of my life with who will commit.
Unfortunately for me I migrate towards people who I know are not going to commit because I've been accustomed to spending a lot of time alone. Now I realize I need to change my course of action because I want to care again.
