Is Your Confidant Your Protagonist?

I sent an email today to a very loving kind sweetheart of a person.  Thankfully my email contained a image of "can you keep a secret".  I was sending a subliminal message.  Everything I email this guy he shares it with his friend who shares it with his grapevine.

How do I know this?  One of the grapes on the grapevine can't keep nothing.  Home girl be boasting with enthusiasm to let me know indirectly someone has scooped her.

Now don't go think I have anything hot and juicy going on in my life.  I just feel some things you share with others, especially involving business transactions should be kept secret.  One of my best mentors used to tell me never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.

It sort of reminds me of when I was married and my ex used to tell everyone everything about us.  The most real estate he got from it was that it made people despise and hate me and see me as the woman who gets what she wants.  He told me on more than one occasion that a wife is a high priced prostitute.  Considering the fact that he wasn't too creative I'm sure one of his friends told him that.  Trust and believe it was not that I got everything that I wanted it was more like I my basic necessities were met.  However, as the old game goes when you tell something to someone and the message is shared with everyone in the game by the time it gets to the last person and they communicate it to the person who started off the message it can and usually is completely distorted from the original context. 

Of course I am not encouraging anyone to live their life in paranoia.  I'm just saying take time to reflect to see how your messages bounce back to you.  Look for feedback and interaction and see if it appears the person has been communicating your messages in the wrong light to others.

Too often I have seen where someone who has a confidant the confidant is actually their protagonist.  Does everyone need to know everything about you?  You may not make your life an open book but is your confidant making your life an open book.

I can honestly say I have one confidant who I know is like a broken down refrigerator.  She doesn't keep nothing and I tell her that all the time.  My good old mom.  She is one of the most attentive listeners I know.  Fortunately most of the time she gets the details right when she relays all your personal goings on.  She normally even has something to add because shes the type of person people flock to and tell stuff.  I'll be the first to tell you she can't wait to get on the phone to update everyone else.  I just listen astonished at times as to how she tells me some stuff just in a matter of fact type way. 

You just gotta know and accept what you have and deal with it accordingly.  Do you have a confidant who you can truly confide in when you want to keep something private or do you have a confidant who is really a protagonist and tells everything you tell them?  Food for thought.

Stay blessed!

Lynne

You'll Always Be Loved Whitney!

What a shock: Whitney Houston has died at 48. Thank goodness for FACEBOOK because I was watching The Voice (no pun intended during such a serious matter) and I didn't even know about Whitney until I saw some posts on FACEBOOK. 

Unfortunately, there are people who are trying to overshadow all the tremendous things she has done with the negative which they feel led to her demise.  This is one of those classic scenarios where you can list all the good things a person has done against all the negative and the positive things will definitely win out. 

All the right she did  impacted a whole lot of lives in a positive way.  I saw her movie "Bodyguard" several times and not once did I go to an empty theater even if I went alone.  My watching the same movie more than once doesn't happen too often.  I don't recall a movie I watched her perform in I missed seeing again to make sure I didn't miss anything because it was so totally awesome.

Whitney to me will always be a legend worth celebrating no matter what the cause or accusations of surrounding her death.  She made major contributions to the world with giving the ultimate sacrifice of her herself to so many for so long that nothing could overshadow that.


One of my favorite movies was "The Bodyguard" which she starred in with Kevin Costner.  The vocals she blew for the song "I Will Always Love You" brought me to uncontrollable tears at the movie theater.  The movie and the vocals were very touching.  Whitney had that kind of voice where you could fall in love with the song based on the vocals before grasping the meaning of the lyrics.

Whitney was an outstanding vocalist.  She even as great as an actress.  Her music and movies were so moving they will always be awe inspiring for me. 

The legacy she leaves to America is her music, her work, and her love which illuminated in everything she did.  I'm sure no one will ever forget the love she showed for her family outside of her artistic endeavors.  When so many stood against her marriage to Bobbie Brown she stood by him.  One day people in America are going to wake up and realize the issues with drugs in America is bigger than Whitney and any vices she suffered through during her lifetime.  She had it right.  When she stood by Bobbie even if he led her further astray she didn't abandon her issues she dealt with them.  America needs to stop abandoning the issue with drugs and deal with them more heavily.  Drug use is a victimless crime until someone dies.  Even more unfortunate when they die way too soon.

My condolences to Whitney Houston's family, loved ones, friends, and fans.  She is a Diva who will truly be missed.  Kudos for a job well done to Whitney! 


Whitney let your voice resound higher than the roaring sea as you enter those pearly gates to eternal rest and peace.

Do You Know the Equation for Love?

Are you fond of math?  Then you may be happy to know there is an equation you can Google and get an image of a heart displayed graphically.  See below:

sqrt(cos(x))*cos(300x)+sqrt(abs(x))-0.7)*(4-x*x)^0.01, sqrt(6-x^2), -sqrt(6-x^2) from -4.5 to 4.5

I saw this post at http://mashable.com/2012/02/09/google-valentine-surprise/.  Check out the link to get all the details.  I tested it out using Google search box and it worked for me!


So on Valentine's Day send your sweetie an email and let your sweetie know you have an equation for love.  

Enjoy your Valentine's Day!