Some Folks will Step Over, On Top, or Across You to Get What They Want

"Don’t reach across my plate, if you want the salt just ask for it and I’ll pass it to you!”  Have you ever heard those words?  Well, many times as a young person I heard those words.  Those times when I had something on my plate that I really wanted to sprinkle salt on and just started reaching.  It would definitely get your hands popped if you were reaching across my grandmother.  Pushed or shoved if reaching across another child.  People don’t like you reaching across their plate of food or the food placed on the table.  It is amazing how the little lessons we learn as a child can give us insight, guidance, and understanding into the things we face as an adult.   The lesson I took from this was “stay in my lane.”  Unfortunately (maybe) we have those all across the road drivers.  Those who will speed pass you to get to where they’re going are living recklessly and you be like hoping and praying I hope they don’t hit my car.   They’re driving like a bat let loose and here you go hoping they don’t crash into and drag you along to the fire they must be going to put out somewhere.  Needless to say, I detest overly aggressive drivers. 

Well getting back to my topic.  It’s strange how I came across the topic for this blog.  We were out having dinner.  My granddaughters had ordered the buffet and my mother and I did a Buy One Get one Free (BOGO) dinner.  Well anyways, my granddaughter who was sitting closest to me and on the inside of the same booth seat next to me kept getting up to go to the buffet.  I don’t normally sit beside her but I didn’t want to go through the ordeal of her kicking me under table claiming it wasn’t her during the meal because after having worked, gone to a 2 o’clock appointment and then going to pick my mom up to take her for her pre-surgery instructions with her doctor, then to get her pre-surgery lab work done, then going back across town to pick up my two granddaughters from camp, then back to pick my mom up.  On top of things having gone badly for my mom I was too over anything but resting.  Well, my grand child who will challenge your level of tolerance the most kept getting up so when I needed a napkin I just reached for it.  Somehow the thought came across my mind some people will step over you, step on top of you, or step across you to get what they want.  It became a topic of discussion at the table as well.   My eldest grandchild let me know she had a story in that regards that she wanted to share with me at a later time.  She just gave me a brief introduction.  
 

I wonder if the people who will step on you, step over you, or step on top of you ever got their hands slapped for reaching over folk for the salt?  It brought back memories for me.  My grandma was quick to slap your hand if you reached across her.  Normally she would be sitting at the breakfast table with the news on while at the same time reading the newspaper.  I usually tried to reach for the salt or pepper in a manner not to let her know that is what I was doing.  It seemed I caught that slap every time.  She would be so enthralled in the paper and the news reports I thought she wasn’t cognizant of my actions.   I had already been asking her to pass the salt. And if I would yell so she could hear me then I got fussed out for yelling at her.  Hey all I wanted was the salt.  

In my lifetime I have encountered who people who will step over, on, or across another person to get what they want.  Some folks are focused on their master plan and they will make any strategic move they feel necessary to get where, what, or who they want.  I’ve had ladies who I felt were in my corner get close to my man.  I’ve had people bad mouth me to get an opportunity and knock me out the running.  I’ve had people do unscrupulous things under the thought they would be able to later hold something over my head.  The unfortunate thing a lot of times they don’t even think twice about it or even care how it impacts others.  The act of reaching across, over, on top of others seems to just be second nature to them.

I have one friend who always proclaims he will eat anybody’s cookies.  Why are some people like that?  Yes of course it takes all types of people to make the world go round.  But I often wonder what is in a person’s soul that they feel it is okay.   These modern times has made some of these folks really act out.  Like they will hack your website, they will hack your email messages, they will hack your phone calls.  Folks nowadays will even order a key to your vehicle and scavenge through your car while it is parked in your driveway.  Unfortunately it seems to be happening so much that law enforcement cannot keep up and prosecute against this type of behavior.  I personally feel locales would make more money from law enforcement if they start putting their efforts more towards cyber criminals and phone hackers in lieu of the time and energy they expend on roads luring and waiting for people to speed. 

I am a firm believer of and also a firm believer to have a complete team you must have people who think, feel, and act differently to get a full 360 degree benefit of a viable solution that will impact the masses in a positive way.  If you just hang with or talk to like-minded people you never grow because you don’t know what others are doing.  My advice, stay in shape because you're going to need a strong stomach.  You never know what you're going to get fed full circle.

Even though I don’t have it in my heart to practice the behavior of reaching over, across, or on top of someone to get what I want I have a little admiration for those who do.  It takes a certain type of core that I don't have.  I figure with my brains if I had it I would be super rich.  They seem to be the ones who favorably get ahead.  They don’t have to have the education, skills, or ability.  They mainly just have the gift of GAB which I always laugh at my own personally coined acronym for GAB as standing for Gossiping All Busybodies (to keep it clean but the A and B words I use are quite different).   They seem to network to keep other folks uneasy, unhappy, and on the edge.  Thankfully when you understand the madness you can deal with it a lot better.  

If you are experiencing trials and tribulations stay encouraged.  People are going to talk.  And from what I’ve seen in my lifetime the ones who have the gift of gab are the most vicious of them all.  They will step over, on, or across you to get a promotion, get you a demotion, to get that man you want, to keep others thinking lowly about you.  There’s a fine line between them and haters.  

Trust God, stay in the faith, God is all knowing and all seeing.  One of my favorite sayings is “trouble don’t last always”.  What is done in the dark (darkness) always comes to the light.  Look towards the light.  Negativity is the biggest energy drainer.  So keep it positive.  You can interact with these type of people because you learn a lot from what they say as to how to and not to treat others.  Don't become the door mat learn how to and how not to talk about others and just be careful not to become a victim.  Just claim and live the victory you are wonderfully and uniquely made to be.

People can make their mouths say anything.  If you have the naysayers in and around in your life the best thing you can do is show them love.  Love hides all faults.  Life, you have to live it, and it is not a matter of whether you win or lose it is how you play the game.  Yes there are those people who will make you feel like physically throwing a rule book at them.  Playing by the rules doesn’t always guarantee a win.   It may just be an in your face lesson as to how the game is played.  Walk away with grace and dignity.  No need to let your character go over things you have no control over.  If you have control that's a whole different matter.  Usually snakes sneak up and inject their venom before you even knew they were coming.  They're too low to the ground to read a rule book.  Me personally, I believe in the old-fashioned hard work ethic.  I believe if someone truly loves you competing for their love is so far removed.  You can love but to be loved you have no personal control over.  If your partner doesn't trust you enough to believe in you and let the things people say and do to snake him away well its best to let go and move on.  Personally, I don't want a man to be mine unless he is also going to be my best friend. 

There will even be times when you get disqualified and those breaking the rules get to play on.  Don’t cry over spilled milk, pick up and move to a clean playground.

I wasn't raised by a politician.  Nor by a person trying to shatter the glass ceiling.  I was raised by a no non-sense person who had a strong persona and believed in schooling children on the difference between what was right and wrong.