Earlier today when I went out to run some errands on the way back home I was mindful of how when I was younger and I would do things to outsmart my parents what I was really do was taking another notch out of my own future. Things like having children and you see some of the things they do to self-destruct will make one mindful of that.
It brought to mind that all three of my children are really smart. They always made it their mission to outsmart me even if they had to form an alliance to do so. I do wonder why they are not that close nowadays. Anyways, I realized the one who did the most outsmarting is the one who has suffered the most unbeknownst. As a young person I'm sure it is easy to feel like every time we outsmart our parents for whatever reason we've really done something. Another whew moment, got that one over on them.
However, now that I have my grown girl pants on I realize every time I outsmarted my parents or grandparents what I was really doing was adding fuel to my own demise. I remember when I was able to figure out a way to be able to go to the football games, basketball games, dances (for a few minutes) when I in high school. My first big step of accomplishment so I felt so I could get to see the guy I worshiped the ground for play ball. I would not have been able to go out any other way because my grandmother was just too strict. I became a cheerleader so I could spend more time with the one person who she didn't want me to spend any time with at all.
In retrospect, I look at my GPA from prior to then versus during that time until when I was prepared to accept the challenge academically and my grades really reflect it. My grandmother had told me to wait another year until I got used to being in high school. But I pushed until she was okay with me doing it right then and now.
I remember when my parents wanted me to go overseas to go to college and I did everything I could think of to stay state bound. My final attempt worked staying and going to the same college my brother was attending. Other than that I assuredly would have been sailing the seven seas. There mission was I could go anywhere to college I wanted as long as it wasn't at home. They knew the deal and I was wet behind the ears. I'm thankful now they were as persistent as they were. If I would have stayed at home I probably would have got loss in the sauce. I guess they never figured my high school sweetheart would travel to come and be with me. Not the first year because I was all the way in Mississippi but the next couple of years because I was closer to home.
They pushed for me to push myself because they felt he was winning my ear. So I did push myself and take enough course hours to finish up my studies a year early.
Why did I fight? I thought I knew more than them apparently. Life has showed me I really didn't know "diddly squat" as my grandmother would often tell me. She would challenge me to live long enough and I would know exactly what she meant.
Well I think I have finally lived long enough. Having gone through the same things with the bright minds who think they are outsmarting me when it actually shouldn't be about outsmarting me. It should be about looking at the big picture and seeing the pieces actually fit together rather than trying to fit stuff that don't go easy. How smart is it really when you end up with the raw end of the stick? How smart is it really when everything you felt you were working for goes up in smoke? How smart is it really when the people you were listening to voices really weren't worth listening to and those voices are no longer there? How smart is it really when you realize after the person you should have been listening to all along is covered in dirt and all you have is the memories of what they did say?
As a mother, the biggest hurts I've suffered is when my children feel they have outsmarted me. My soul is crying for them because deep down inside I know they are not hurting me they are too young to realize it but they are really hurting themselves.
Life has a way to show you how smart you really are when it is too late to change what happened in the past. You can just swallow the pill, deal with it and move on. As a mother, I hope just that they learn before its too late to move on from the things that bind.
I thank God every day for allowing me to move forward from things that have been a hindrance or bound me in my life. I thank God every day because some of the things I thought I needed to let go of I didn't. I think God for the times I was on such a heavy roll I was priding myself for outsmarting anything I had ever done. One day you realize smarts are based in humility.
I think back to my experiences in the work a day world. There are always people forming cliches. They bind together to usually outsmart someone else to make the other person's work experience full of trials and tribulations. They think they are being so smart. Then one day when the person is gone they realize they really weren't so smart at all. All the name calling, the watching, the back biting, the pressure, the need to make someone feel uncomfortable was distorting their view of the big picture. They weren't the major contributor the person they slung out the door was. They hadn't come up with a good idea in thirteen years and here someone comes and presents thirteen great ideas in the course of a little over a year who they treat like crap. The game was to outsmart the person and belittle them and their accomplishments and achievements all along.
Smart people have it tough in the work a day world. They are normally honest, trustworthy, hard-working people who get the raw end of the deal due to other folk incompetence. The only way the playing field came seem level for insecure people is to make personal attacks to make the person seem incompetent based on trivial personal attacks that they escalate out of proportion.
Once the smart person leaves who is really smart? The one who left or the one who stayed? The one who was outsmarted and outwitted to leave normally can take their skills and abilities elsewhere. They yes are missing out on making money. But God provides very well for his children. I've seen folk outcast and outlast their circumstances.
Be humble, for tomorrow is only a day away, there is no way you can outsmart it coming. Live your life like your tomorrow depends on the wise decisions you make today. The next time you think you're outsmarting someone stop for a second to see how you personally and maybe even professionally and spiritually will be impacted. Short term gain can lead to long term everlasting pain.
It brought to mind that all three of my children are really smart. They always made it their mission to outsmart me even if they had to form an alliance to do so. I do wonder why they are not that close nowadays. Anyways, I realized the one who did the most outsmarting is the one who has suffered the most unbeknownst. As a young person I'm sure it is easy to feel like every time we outsmart our parents for whatever reason we've really done something. Another whew moment, got that one over on them.
However, now that I have my grown girl pants on I realize every time I outsmarted my parents or grandparents what I was really doing was adding fuel to my own demise. I remember when I was able to figure out a way to be able to go to the football games, basketball games, dances (for a few minutes) when I in high school. My first big step of accomplishment so I felt so I could get to see the guy I worshiped the ground for play ball. I would not have been able to go out any other way because my grandmother was just too strict. I became a cheerleader so I could spend more time with the one person who she didn't want me to spend any time with at all.
In retrospect, I look at my GPA from prior to then versus during that time until when I was prepared to accept the challenge academically and my grades really reflect it. My grandmother had told me to wait another year until I got used to being in high school. But I pushed until she was okay with me doing it right then and now.
I remember when my parents wanted me to go overseas to go to college and I did everything I could think of to stay state bound. My final attempt worked staying and going to the same college my brother was attending. Other than that I assuredly would have been sailing the seven seas. There mission was I could go anywhere to college I wanted as long as it wasn't at home. They knew the deal and I was wet behind the ears. I'm thankful now they were as persistent as they were. If I would have stayed at home I probably would have got loss in the sauce. I guess they never figured my high school sweetheart would travel to come and be with me. Not the first year because I was all the way in Mississippi but the next couple of years because I was closer to home.
They pushed for me to push myself because they felt he was winning my ear. So I did push myself and take enough course hours to finish up my studies a year early.
Why did I fight? I thought I knew more than them apparently. Life has showed me I really didn't know "diddly squat" as my grandmother would often tell me. She would challenge me to live long enough and I would know exactly what she meant.
Well I think I have finally lived long enough. Having gone through the same things with the bright minds who think they are outsmarting me when it actually shouldn't be about outsmarting me. It should be about looking at the big picture and seeing the pieces actually fit together rather than trying to fit stuff that don't go easy. How smart is it really when you end up with the raw end of the stick? How smart is it really when everything you felt you were working for goes up in smoke? How smart is it really when the people you were listening to voices really weren't worth listening to and those voices are no longer there? How smart is it really when you realize after the person you should have been listening to all along is covered in dirt and all you have is the memories of what they did say?
As a mother, the biggest hurts I've suffered is when my children feel they have outsmarted me. My soul is crying for them because deep down inside I know they are not hurting me they are too young to realize it but they are really hurting themselves.
Life has a way to show you how smart you really are when it is too late to change what happened in the past. You can just swallow the pill, deal with it and move on. As a mother, I hope just that they learn before its too late to move on from the things that bind.
I thank God every day for allowing me to move forward from things that have been a hindrance or bound me in my life. I thank God every day because some of the things I thought I needed to let go of I didn't. I think God for the times I was on such a heavy roll I was priding myself for outsmarting anything I had ever done. One day you realize smarts are based in humility.
I think back to my experiences in the work a day world. There are always people forming cliches. They bind together to usually outsmart someone else to make the other person's work experience full of trials and tribulations. They think they are being so smart. Then one day when the person is gone they realize they really weren't so smart at all. All the name calling, the watching, the back biting, the pressure, the need to make someone feel uncomfortable was distorting their view of the big picture. They weren't the major contributor the person they slung out the door was. They hadn't come up with a good idea in thirteen years and here someone comes and presents thirteen great ideas in the course of a little over a year who they treat like crap. The game was to outsmart the person and belittle them and their accomplishments and achievements all along.
Smart people have it tough in the work a day world. They are normally honest, trustworthy, hard-working people who get the raw end of the deal due to other folk incompetence. The only way the playing field came seem level for insecure people is to make personal attacks to make the person seem incompetent based on trivial personal attacks that they escalate out of proportion.
Once the smart person leaves who is really smart? The one who left or the one who stayed? The one who was outsmarted and outwitted to leave normally can take their skills and abilities elsewhere. They yes are missing out on making money. But God provides very well for his children. I've seen folk outcast and outlast their circumstances.
Be humble, for tomorrow is only a day away, there is no way you can outsmart it coming. Live your life like your tomorrow depends on the wise decisions you make today. The next time you think you're outsmarting someone stop for a second to see how you personally and maybe even professionally and spiritually will be impacted. Short term gain can lead to long term everlasting pain.
